Thursday, January 11, 2007

We may have a problem....

My two-year-old daughter is a nipple pincher. I admit it, it's our secret shame, but the child won't stop pinching her own nipple. At first, I thought it was just a comfort thing, and yes, that's probably what it is. But it looks like a really painful comfort thing. She pinches that little thing til it's purple. We put vaseline or lotion on her chest, and she gets so, so mad! =-) Mostly we whisper to her, "Shirt down, shirt down!" Every once in awhile, she loudly proclaims, "I don't WANT shirt down! I want to pinch my nipple!" Very clearly, folks. There is no mistaking what the child is yelling or doing. I will flee a room when I can no longer pretend that she just has an itch. (I bring her with me, so she can't shame me while I'm not even there) Recently, I've begun carrying a bottle of lotion with me, in case of emergency.

We went to a Way-to-Grow playdate this morning, and I was a little nervous. I grabbed the lotion, put it in my pocket, and sent up a quick prayer for no self-mutilation at playgroup. We did really well, for about two hours, then I started to get VERY nervous. So nervous, in fact, that I finally just packed up before storytime. Nothing like nap time, a story, and a little nipple pinching to relax, ay? So I didn't even risk it, and we just left. This cracks my husband up no end. But really, wouldn't you be embarrassed? Just a little??? My older children did comfort things like rubbing this hands over the lines their socks left in their skin, or twirling their hair into knots. I didn't know how good I had it. I promise to never again try to stop a child from engaging in a comfort habit, so long as it doesn't make me flee the room.

In the meantime, though, does anyone have any good suggestions on how to stop this child from doing this? And what kind of people are going to hit on my blog site now that I've typed in nipple, pinching and lotion? I shudder to think.

In other news, I am crazily knitting on the husband's sweater. I've done the back, one sleeve, and am halfway up the other sleeve, which means that I will definitely finish the front when I get there! Then, without guilt, I can start that burnt orange sweater I've been eyeing the yarn for since before Thanksgiving. The pattern on the husband's sweater is VERY easy, and he says he's going to like it when it's done, so I soldier on. It's good knitting while I'm listening to NPR or waiting to pick kids up from school. Still, knitting a sweater for a grown man is a lot different than what I usually knit, which is for the children, or socks. Here's a picture, and then I'm off to watch Go, Diego, Go with the little darling....





Pretty easy pattern, no? The whole thing just looks like lots and lots more of this.

8 comments:

Kat said...

Just think: you have some great blackmail material for when she starts dating. :)

Anonymous said...

Since this is a comfort behavior, I would try offering her comfort when she starts doing it. She's only two, so I'm sure you can't really over do the cuddles, hugs, or back stroking.

If you can find out what her trigger is, and offer her some comfort before she starts the nipple pinching, that would be even better.

Anonymous said...

Oh no! That's too funny, though!

AR said...

I'm so sorry, I know I shouldn't laugh, but....

I wish I could give you some earth shatteringly wonderful advice, but all I can say is hopefully, she'll grow out of it soon.

Jeanne said...

I'm sorry - I'm not sure I have any real advice that you probably haven't tried already. I'd try to distract her with something else that requires two hands when you think she's getting to that point. Poor you - sounds stressful! The good news is that they usually outgrow this type of thing. Hang in there!

del said...

You poor thing! I'm sorry, but I'm LOL. It does just sound like a comfort thing that will (eventually) phase out; it's probably best to pay as little attention to it as possible, though I know that's hard, especially in public! But try. And the idea to distract her is also good.

Anonymous said...

My almost-3-year-old is a nipple pincher, too...MINE! Nothing like a titty twister in the middle of a busy store! She looks me right in the eye, reaches out, and TWIST. Right through the shirt, right through the bra. Right in front of cute stay-at-home dads. Ugh.

She also plays with her own, but usually only after a bath when she's naked and thinking about them. I feel for ya!

Anonymous said...

Wow, I'm catching up on my blog reading and just saw this post. I don't even know what I would do in a situation like this! I don't even know if I did any comfort things as a kid... I think I'm going to ask my mother! Can you put her in outfits that she can't pull up her shirt? Overalls over her shirt? Or onesies (do they make them for 2 year olds? I know they have them for 12 month size, I got some as gifts yesterday!)?? Would she undo overalls to pick up her shirt? Is there specific times of the day she does this? Or is it completely random??

Thanks for commenting on my blog - and yes I'm sure I just gave birth just over 2 weeks ago, but thank you for the compliments. I don't think I look good in ANY of the pics that were taken yesterday, but thank you for the compliments!

I just picked a pattern in the new Vogue Knitting for my hubby for a sweater. I told him it may take me 2 years to knit, but that I'll make him a sweater! LOL